I was talking with a friend about burning or keeping bridges earlier and she encouraged me to go back to blogging, although few people pass by my page, I’ll just leave this here in case anyone needs it.
My father is a businessman, and in business where connections are always wanted and a necessity, we grew up with his example and encouragement not to burn bridges. But in life, you meet all sorts of people, some of them are good for you, some not, so it’s inevitable that you won’t like everyone you meet. It will also happen that you outgrow some friends and the old memories just seem so childish and naive that when that friend wants to revisit those old memories, you might just scoff and mostly be stiff or plain unfriendly with them. You’ll also meet people who are downright nasty, people who will suck you dry either monetarily or mentally. Not all people you meet will be nice or good for you.
What do we do with the not-nice people? Do we abandon them and burn bridges? Block them on social media or pretend to not know them? – Of course not. even though you must not burn bridges, it doesn’t mean you have to maintain all connections. Maintaining friendship takes effort and not all friendships are worth the effort (yet) but that doesn’t mean breaking it off. You will maintain the friends who help you grow, of course, but you shouldn’t cease to be friends with someone just because they don’t fit you right now. People change, those people might change and be your guides someday, but if you burned the bridge, any future friendship might be sour or bitter.
It might sound cold, but you can put those less than pleasant friends on-hold if they are too draining. But also try to understand them, find out why. Some people are just temporarily draining due to recent unpleasant events like unemployment, disease or family problems, while some just suck you dry of your good vibes for any reason no matter how shallow. Know who to keep in touch and who to mute until further notice, but that doesn’t mean you should turn cold to a person who’s going through a hard time just because he/she can’t help at the moment. Try to be kind but not too kind that you get taken advantage of.
My advice for you is to make connections, as much as you want. Meet all kinds of people and make friends or acquaintances. Knowing one of those people might just be your meal ticket in the future, your mentor, or future partner. Connections open opportunities that might otherwise be unavailable to you. Because that friend will know other people who might need you and if you are a good person then they will help you and think of you. Meet and talk to the kind of people you want to be but don’t forget to be yourself, you don’t have to please everyone.
This is not a black and white rule, burn bridges with a person who abuses you.